Whenever I have talked to people that have been married for a long period of time, 9 times out of 10, they state that what held them together for so long was communication and understanding. I’ve always felt that I have an old soul especially when it comes to love and relationships so the idea of small talk is beyond annoying to me. I’ve never understood it. Small talk is meant for your co-workers who you have to be friendly with but you know you aren’t trying to kick it with outside of work or your significant other’s family member that you don’t really like but you have to play your role. Why does it make sense to try to build a relationship on small talk? A part of me thinks it is because of pride and maybe some people just don’t want to allow someone a complete look into them, just in case they use it against them in the future. The other part of me thinks that my generation is built on temporary bonds. Regardless of what the reason, it doesn’t make any sense and I wish that the concept of building relationships on small talk would just end.
I’m pretty sure that you have heard the saying, “Nothing worth having comes easy.” millions of times and that definitely comes into affect when it comes to building a strong bond with someone. You can’t go into a situation half ass and expect things to work in your favor. I’m at a point in my life where I don’t want anything temporary. I can’t date someone that I don’t know and that doesn’t truly know me. Most relationships nowadays don’t last because people just talk about a bunch of irrelevant things, start having sex, and then just decide they are together. I’ll take a hard pass on that one. Why settle for mediocrity in a relationship? You can’t truly know who someone is without really understanding how they became that way. You have to get personal to even connect with someone on a higher level. I don’t know about all of you but I want a partner. I want someone that brings me an undeniable joy and love that will last decades. Be my muse. Speak to my soul. Open yourself to me so that I can love you for all that you are and all that you aren’t. Help my life flourish as I do the same for you. Every relationship has issues, that honeymoon stage only lasts for so long, the foundation that it is built on is what is going to make it last. My foundation WILL NOT be built on small talk. That is a recipe for disaster.