I believe this is a concept that a lot of women have trouble understanding until they get older. Whether we believe that a man is filling a void that we never had or we believe that having a man is a necessity because society has told us that a goal of being a woman also means being a wife. What we often forget is that we can’t be a partner to someone until we are comfortable and secure in our own skin. In order to become that way, it means being alone. Being single should not automatically mean being lonely and I really want to know where that dumbass concept came from. Everyone, not just women, should be comfortable being alone, should honestly be happy when they are alone. The reason that I am directing this to women is more so because I constantly see this mindset and its annoying.
No one should have the ability to love you more than you love yourself. I’m sure that I am not the only person who has allowed someone to mistreat and belittle me because I didn’t know my own worth. I made a million and one excuses for their behavior because I didn’t love myself enough to realize that I was in a toxic situation. Loneliness doesn’t even just mean with your romantic relationships, it also comes with some friendships. Just because someone has been in your life for years does not mean that they deserve to stay there. Sometimes you grow past people and you have to realize that keeping them around is hurting you more than it will to let them go. Loyalty can blind you and don’t allow it to.
I’ve said this before but it is so important to love yourself and just be proud of who you are, no matter your flaws. It took me some time to get to this point and I definitely took a serious break from dating to focus on myself. You have to be secure in who are you and what you are worth before honestly being able to have a serious relationship. “Lonely” should never be a consistent factor in your life and if it is, figure out why. Understand why you feel the NEED to be with someone and deal with that. Travel, try new things, challenge yourself, and really just start feeling yourself. As far as I’m concerned, “I’m That Bitch”, and no one can tell me any different.