I can’t even lie, I am definitely one of those people that live in LaLa Land. Once I have this idea of how I want things to go in my life, if it gets off track, I often get overwhelmed. I didn’t realize how often I thought this way until earlier today when I was talking to a close friend. I’m not going to get into details on the particular situation because that is besides the point, but he basically told me that I was expecting someone to be different from what they have constantly shown me that they were. Basically it comes down to a quote from Maya Angelou, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them.” This post isn’t entirely focused on not having expectations of people in your life but also the situations that you are in. Life NEVER happens the way that you expect it. There are always going to be obstacles that you didn’t expect and some of those obstacles are going to make you lose faith in yourself.
When that happens, look at the world around you. Take the time to actually understand what you have the power to control in your life. If you do not have any control over it, do not stress it. If you do have control over it, make a plan, and execute it to the fullest extent. Too many people either become overwhelmed over a situation and give up or become obsessed over situations that they honestly can’t do a damn thing about. I catch myself falling into that pattern, when at the end of the day, that is only hindering my progress. When life pushes you down whether it be a death, loss of a job, end of a relationship, and so on, you never expect those things to happen and honestly can’t expect to deal with those as everyone else does. Accept your reality wholeheartedly and move accordingly.