“If a person wants to be a part of your life, they will make an obvious effort to do so. Think twice before reserving a space in your heart for people who do not make an effort to stay.”
My mom has always told me that my biggest strength and my biggest weakness is how big my heart is. It took me a while to truly understand how one thing could be positive and negative but as of lately, it’s becoming clear. I put so much energy into making excuses for people’s actions and searching for the good in them when in the end, it only ends up harming me. I rarely held people accountable and when I did, it only lasted a second before I forgave and acted as if everything was okay. It was exhausting in every form and I never had the energy to truly take care of myself.
I will never say that I am a perfect person because I’m human. I’m constantly changing and learning and I will continue to make mistakes. What I can say is that I make a conscious effort to take responsibility for my actions and better myself as a person. I wasted so much energy on people that were toxic in my life because it was easier than coming to terms with the fact that some people you just have to walk away from as you grow. You sometimes have to realize that some people are not worthy of your energy. Protect yourself and put your own happiness first. There are selfish people in this world who don’t take accountability for their actions and will use you in anyway possible for their benefit. Don’t allow them to do so. I no longer will allow my heart to be a weakness but only a strength.